Work With Me
I SPECIALIZE IN
HOW PEOPLE RELATE.
To themselves. To the people in their lives. To the lives they’ve built.
Why Me?
For 25 years, people have trusted me with the conversations and decisions that matter most.
As a former marriage and family therapist and the founder of a highly respected therapeutic and educational consulting practice in the Bay Area, I spent decades guiding parents (including CEOs and tech executives at places like Google, Meta, and Genentech, and leaders at Stanford University) through some of the most painful, complex chapters of their lives: navigating critical decisions for their struggling teens and young adults.
Having been a therapist, consultant, and now coach, I’ve helped people work through complex relationships, make hard decisions, change long-standing patterns, and figure out what to do when there was no obvious right answer.
Today, I bring that same pattern-recognition to midlife professionals who want to live, relate, and work differently.
Because of my deep clinical roots, I am also frequently sought out by mental health professionals, psychologists, and clinical leaders for their own personal coaching.
Our conversations are lively, candid, and often very funny. My clients tell me the hour flies. I am direct, I’ll challenge you when you need it, and I will champion you like hell.
I bring my own lived experience, too.
I built a successful career out of nothing, and twenty years later decided I wanted something completely different.
I’ve dated at midlife and broken patterns that were keeping me from finding the relationship I wanted. I’ve learned what it takes not only to find love, but to keep it in a marriage.
I’ve broken up with toxic friends, built new communities, set boundaries with family members, and started over more than once.
I’ve made hard choices, taken risks, changed direction, and trusted myself without knowing exactly how things would turn out.
I know what it’s like. And I bring all of that in service to you.
You get my 25 years of experience with people, patterns, relationships, and change, with someone who is going to bring a lot of energy to helping you make yours.
CLIENT LOVE
“I built a different relationship with myself.”
“When I first began working with Vania as my dating coach, I thought I was looking for help finding the right partner. Looking back, I realize the greatest relationship I’ve built through this process has been the one with myself. Over the months, I’ve learned to replace self-doubt with discernment. I’ve become deeply clear about my values, the kind of partnership I wanted to create, and the standards I was no longer willing to compromise. Today, I am in a relationship with an incredible man who embodies the very qualities I envisioned through this coaching process.”
- Recent Dating Coach Client
“I stopped waiting for the situation to change.”
“I had already spent years in therapy unpacking the family dynamics, old hurts, patterns, and entanglements. That work was important, but I had reached a point where I didn’t need to keep circling the same tired story. I needed practical tools, and a little more fearlessness. Vania helped me stay in relationship with this family member without abandoning myself. She helped me see what was true, what was possible, and how I could actually move forward.”
- Lori, Marketing Consultant
“We started working as a team.”
“Vania has a unique gift for balancing compassion with accountability. She won’t let you stay stuck, but she also creates a space where you feel supported enough to do the hard work. She helped us stop trying to win against each other and start working as a team. We’re leaving this experience with a stronger foundation, a deeper understanding of each other, and practical tools we’ll continue using long after the coaching ends.”
- Business Owners & Parents
